Have you ever heard people say, “you are who you surround yourself with?” It is common for us to underestimate the importance of the company we keep. There is power in the people we surround ourselves with; they can influence our thoughts, emotions, behaviors in both positive and negative ways. 

The truth is you can’t have positivity in your life when you spend most of your time with people who always focus on the negative in life, and/or are too comfortable in their “routine”. They have certain fears in life and their energy can certainly have a negative impact on you. The people you choose to spend your time with also reflect your standards. Let’s assume, you purchased a bag of apples and as you open the bag, you notice three of those apples are rotten. Would you keep those rotten apples with the good ones? Most likely not, so why would you continue to spend time with people who deplete your energy? 

Surrounding yourself with the right people changes everything. When you surround yourself with positive people, they can help you feel empowered and challenge you to reach new heights of success. Let’s face it, we can’t or don’t always win in life and that is the bitter truth! During those times, nothing feels better than being with those people who we can vent our frustration to but, we also have to make sure those people can help or encourage us to keep trying to do better and propel forward.  

So, are you happy with your circle? Or do you have some changes to make?

By: Santa Dastidar, LCSW